Monthly Archives: April 2015
If You Don’t Enjoy Singledom, You’re Doing it Wrong
Congrats to Ms. Tina and Mr. Lawson on their nuptials and for proving to us that it really can get greater later! Scrolling through their wedding pics had me reflecting on period in my life I like to call Wedding Season. 
Wedding Season lasted about three years. Three years of being a bridesmaid, one wedding right after another. I felt like I was going out of town every weekend. Everyone around me was getting engaged or getting married. And I was very much single.
But despite the constant reminder I had no serious boo, Wedding Season had it’s perks. I was in my first traditional Nigerian celebration, made it on Essence.com, partied endlessly and broke many groomsmen hearts. I was having fun, getting glam and becoming overwhelmed. I don’t have that many close friends and it seemed like they all decided to #putaringonit at the #samedamntime. I was no longer running through the six with my woes…
My woes had husbands and mortgages and had to pay property taxes. None of this I could relate to and I wondered why they decided to make that leap. I started questioning myself, asking what was wrong with me. Why wasn’t I ready to run down the aisle? Why didn’t I want to buy monogrammed linen…?
Yet, similar to most situations, hindsight became 20/20. The answers to my questions were more obvi with time and I realized I simply wasn’t ready. *Insert fake deep inspirational quote about how your life’s journey is uniquely your own, don’t compare yourself to others, blah blah blah…* I was nowhere near being emotionally, spiritually, and, financially ready for marriage three years ago. Fast forward to now, I’m in a MUCH better place, went through some experiences that gave me a deeper understanding about myself and relationships.
They say good things take time, but great things happen all at once. So, I imagine that when it does happen for me, there will be a complete whirlwind of silk chiffon, sunsets on a sandy beach and a full service open bar (yes. I have it all planned out). I will slow dance to corny r&b, look into my beloved’s eyes and whisper, “I’m just happy to be here.”
The Return
“…May we all emerge from winter with our strength renewed and any unwanted pieces left under the ice.”
Spring has finally sprung! Sort of. It finally stopped snowing. the flowers are blooming and the sun is showing us his beautiful face more often. However, it’s still way too cold for my liking and until I fly down south permanently, I shall wrap myself in swaddling clothing and think warm thoughts until 80 degree days start happening consistently.
Layers on layers on layers.
The ultimate casual comfort.
Sweater: H&M
Jeans: Gap
Camo Jacket: Thrifted
Shoes: Converse
Sunnies: F21
House of Leigh 